When I thought it was quiet

Vince just called and we had to discuss the pink elephant in the room. He readily acknowledged that we havent been able to spend time together lately. I guess once he asked me to spend the night and I turned him down basically, he realized I was serious. I told him to step it up. He said I've been patient and figured that with my busy schedule, I'd be ok. I havent bitched about it because I know he knows and he feels badly and I know he is dealing with a lot right now. Meantime, I have been staying busy. I know it is a rough patch for us both and he says he isn't pushing me away, just trying to get through it. Surprisingly, I was calm about it.I told him I may spend the night later in the week. Then he did a sneak attack/surprise. He suggested we do something together this week. I perked up. Color me surprise when he said we should go out to dinner or do whatever I want. He acknowledged keeping his head under water while he deals with things he is dealing with now and at first I was angry. A while ago I was angry, but I think I had finally accepted it and then decided not to let it get to me or get used to someone who has to put me last for the moment. I decided to take this as an opportunity to get more involved and I can't possible get more focused. I'm already doing me with classes and such. He is right. But now, I have work and two classes. My day starts at 7 and ends at 10 20. Weekends he has the kids and I only have weekends. So what will be the answer? I dunno. He asked me to be honest about how I felt about him. He asked whether I cared about him, liked him or loved him. I said 1&3. Then he asked if I was in love with him or loved him because there is a difference. I told him I care /love him but right now I am not in love with him. How can I be? We've been on this rough patch for two months now. And although we both care about each other and he keeps my best interest at heart, we both know where we are. I try to be a bigger person and not complain because things in life are not perfect. Sometimes you have to go through some bad times to get to the good ones. That is one thing I've been learning within the last year and inthe last two months from him in general. Do you bail when things get a little hard or do you suck it up and hang in there? I'm sucking it up for now. I have a lot to do in the next month so I will be OK. I felt horrible though. He wanted me to spend the night and I wasn't in the mood. Then we tried to talk about getting together to go out but I think he feels like he;s losing me. He kept saying that he is not running away from me and he's not trying to push me away. He even said please which makes me seriously consider spending the night, but I can't. I have work in the morning and it's my first day of school (again). My family are expecting me. Once he said please and then followed up with us doing something together this week, I knew he knew that he had to get back on the ball despite whatever tribulations . So I decided to stay late today at school and surprise him. I have to go to Baruch for my Lit class, but I want to see him.He should be here by now..