Everything in the past...

...is in the past.

I've just finished reading Steve Harvey's book "Act Like A lady, Think Like A Man" and I have to say that is was beyond being on point!

My library friend read some of it with me while we did our hw and he acnowledged each point that we read as being true. I didn't need his royal stanp , however. A lot of the things in the book were behaviors that I've noticed in men or I've become aware of after reading it.

So, I've implemented some changes that I've chosen to document in my other blog. I'll keep track of the progress here.

Meantime, my acquaitance with my libray associate, Leron, has been growing a lot lately.I think that he waited for and walked with me to my bus for the third time this week. Yesterday he took the bus with me since we live near one another and tonight I waited for him to finish class, while I read the rest of the book. He's different from most of the guys that I have met and he's different in a good way. He's got a great relationship with his mom and a solid upbringing from both her and his rastafarian dad. Go figure, his mom is a Baptist. He's focused in his field and has serious short and long term goals, which include buying a house when he graduates. He's got a job that pays for his Master's. He's going for his Master's.He recommended me for his old position and scored me an interview without my asking. He's very insightful when it comes to relationships. He does have his drawbacks like not wanting to try new foods or his views about friendships and trusting people (which seems more relevant). He's cool. We laugh and talk freely, but within a good pace. He asked me if I wanted to join him at the movies tomm. and I said sure. I have a new approach and more strict standards towards dealing with guys and so far it seems to be working. The good thing is that his standards and requirements fall right in line with mine. The bad thing is that he doesn't believe men and women can be just friends, with the exception of two people, and I see he has intentions on us dating. We'll see.

I laid it out for Vincent and called him out on some things, while giving him my two requirements of him as a friend. Whether he can handle it or not is his decision. Either way, I haven't heard from him once I left the ball in his court and I'm not losing sleep over it. He's probably upset but he'll have to deal with it and himself. If he can't come to terms with the truth and not hold a grudge then so be it. I have absolutely no time for anyone's pettiness or bullshit. My foot is down and the line is drawn in the sand. So, keep up or get lost.

I think that it's funny how a little self exploring can give insight to who you are and who you have around you, and the way/reasons that we choose these people. It doesn't matter now because from here on in, my approach to all relationships are going to be about TIMED investments. You have three months to prove whether or not you are worth the time and energy. Any longer and I'm wasting my time.