I'll remember the things to avoid

guys who are ready to rush into sex.
guys with mother/father issues - lack of role models.
guys who are not in college or in a steady and well paying position.
guys who are into being bad boys/ jack asses/ disrespectful/bad manners.
Guys who do not reflect me.
Guys with children.
Guys who are pushy/bipolar.
Guys who think it's ok to talk to a woman anyway they want.

I wont allow guys to talk to me any way that they want.

I've been in an emotionally abusive relationship without realizing it. He curses at me and calls it keeping it real. He ignores me when I come to say hi, but then he calls me when he needs something. Manipulator and he may not even know it- and he acts like my brother. I'll tell him how I feel and not to ever speak to me that way again and he can either accept it or we can't be friends. It's almost like dating Malik.

Set new, reasonable terms for the relationship with clear and consistently implemented consequences. Decide (ideally together, but if that isn't possible, decide for yourself) that you're going to learn a new way of being in this relationship. Abuse most often exists because the spiritual/emotional weakness of the abuser demands the exercise of control over others (you) to give him or her a feeling of emotional security. Read that again, because it's important: Abuse really starts because of insecurity or trust issues with the abuser. It is most often enabled by (1) the victim's inability or failure to recognize the abusive behavior or (2) powerlessness of the victim, as in the case of a child enduring the emotional abuse of a parent. In adult relationships, ultimately, neither partner understands a healthy way to diffuse abuse and to respect each other or themselves. Establish that, effective immediately, all interactions will be honorable, and will specifically and especially exclude: name calling, character attacks/judgments, raised voices, spitting, throwing objects, etc. and that if either partner breaks the agreement, then separation will immediately be imposed until mutual respect is restored. Be prepared to accept that this may never happen, especially in advanced stages of abuse, and that your commitment to a healthy, respectful relationship may result in the termination of this abusive one.